Morning Inspirations - Go Where You’re Celebrated: Cutting Toxic Ties And Claiming Your Worth

We share a clear rule for better choices: go where you are celebrated, not tolerated. We unpack manipulation, envy, and false promises at work and in relationships, and we offer a practical mindset for cutting ties and moving toward people who lift you.

• how to tell support from sabotage
• signs of mind games and delay tactics
• why envy hides inside “reasonable” advice
• when to cut ties like removing a cancer
• abundance mindset over “spinning the block”
• job promotions used as a dangling carrot
• finding rooms with higher ceilings
• playing chess with boundaries and plans

Chapters

• 0:51 Welcome And Core Message
• 1:14 Go Where You’re Celebrated
• 3:01 Spotting Negativity And Mind Games
• 3:41 Everyday Manipulation And Sales Tactics
• 4:20 Intentions, Envy, And Small Ceilings
• 5:27 Don’t Let Doubt Kill Your Ideas
• 6:07 Safety, Loyalty, And Hard Truths
• 7:04 Cut Out What’s Harmful
• 7:42 Stop “Spinning The Block”
• 8:58 Jobs That Dangle Promotions
• 10:35 Knowing Your Worth
• 11:34 Friends, Family, And Real Alliances
• 12:36 Play Chess, Not Checkers

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:26

Good morning. And welcome to Coolin's Morning Inspirations. This is your host, Michael Tarrell. And I just wanted to hit you guys up today about uh subject. Um go where you're celebrated, right? Not where you're tolerated. I know you probably heard that around before. And it's a true statement. Go where you're appreciated, right? Don't be around people that want to hold you down, hold you back, don't want to see nothing good in your life. Um go where people want to, you know, celebrate the things that you do. Always try to uplift you, always validate your ideas. And if they are bad ideas, they have something to critique it, but they're not always just shooting the crap down. You know what I'm saying? Those are the things that you have to look out for when you have things of that nature, where you have people that just want to always be the negative person and around your your circle. That negative aura can bring negative things around. So sometimes you have to get away from those things, and there's nothing wrong with it, it's just that you know the that person does not, you know, orbit orbit the same thing that you do, or the same moral compass, same drive, compass, same, I don't know, like you know, whatever doesn't fit in your your life, you know, and they're always trying to be the anchor to it, you have to watch out for those things. Because if you let that person always sit there and make you feel a certain type of way, there's some people that like to play mind games, right? And you have to watch out for those people because those people sometimes, especially if they know that they can do it, and sometimes you let them play with your mind, not really because you want them to, but because like you're hoping and wishing for the good part about it, but it never comes. But they know that, right? Jobs know it, people in relationships know it. Sometimes even people at the store know it. Yeah, hold on one second, sir. We're about to be right with you. Car dealerships, oh my god, car dealerships are horrible. They'll leave you thinking that you're about to be done with this car process, but for some odd reason you wanted to go check out like five other cars, but they want to hold on to you as much as they can and drag out your whole day so you spend all your time there, right? I know that's a little bit off subject, but what I'm just saying is find the ones that have the best intentions for you, not the ones that have the intentions for themselves, and most individuals know, right? If I have the best intentions for you and you have the best intentions for me, then that works out for the best, and we have a great situation, but there's a lot of times that you'll end up dealing with people that have to shoot you down to build them up, they have to make you feel like you can't do something so that you don't outshine them, and those are the ones that you really have to look out for, the ones that sit out there and hope and wish that you don't get past their level, but their level is so small. The level is small, but I suppose to stay on your level. They don't want you to get higher than them, so a lot of times, yeah. They'll down you, they'll tell you you can't do it, or the ideas that you have are dumb. Oh man, that's stupid, man. You're gonna waste your time, you're gonna waste your money. Don't listen to that. You know, you have great ideas, man. People have great ideas, people have things that they want to do in life. Don't let nobody hold you back from them. Always pursue your dreams, always be around good company. Look at all this mess that's going on out here when it comes down to best friends. I I you know, um, best friends leaving friends stranded, best friends going out on vacations together, but one ends up gone, murdered. You have so many situations where you have family members that screw over family members, they blood, and they still mess over each other. So there's no one spot, there's no safe haven, there's no safe nothing. You have to know that you have to be on your pivot and understand the things that are around you. Know if they mean good, know if they mean bad, and if they mean bad, get rid of them. If you had cancer, they would tell you to cut the cancer out and get rid of it. Do you think about the cancer after you get rid of it? No. Yeah, because that is detached from you, it's not in your body no more, and that you don't want to deal with it no more. So a lot of times that's a lot of things with a lot of things that's going on with your life and your situational shit, you know. If you have something, a situation to where you feel like you shouldn't be in it, get out of it. Don't think about it no more, don't circle back, you know, and then a lot of these things that people say, you know, and make it to be cool, right? Like spinning the block. Why spin the block? That person wasn't good for you the first time, right? And there, I forgot how many billion people are in this world, but there are a lot. And there are a lot of people in your city, there's a lot of people in your state, there's a lot of people in your country, there's a lot of people in your continent. And if you can't find nobody in your continent, there's other continents that you can go to to try to find somebody. To keep circling back to the thing that did not work is insanity, it's insanity, people. I wouldn't I I don't understand it, you know. Sometimes, yeah, you would think that, oh man, you know, he that person cheated, but you know, I love the company. Like, bro, I promise there's something out there, someone, some female, some man, some whatever is out there that can match that same energy, or probably exceed it. If you have a job, and that job is doing nothing for you, but you there and you thinking that you're gonna grow because jobs will dangle it. Hey man, we're gonna make you manager, man. Ah, so the person that doesn't know what manager means, it just means more money. They'll dangle that to you, thinking, like, hey man, if I get manager, my whole life will change. And they'll dangle that over your head until you die, and they'll always tell you what you're not doing and what you need to improve on to get there. Oh man, do I know from personal experience? Yes, I had a job that dangled that over my head for a decade. A smooth decade. They held that over my head, telling me that they were gonna do this, that, and the third. And it took until almost me losing my life for me to realize, hey man, this shit ain't for me. Because they ain't got my best interest there. And with that being said, I had to move on because if I would have stayed there, I would have had, you know. Uh I wouldn't have never known my worth. And sometimes it takes other people to see your worth for you to start to understand that you got worth. But anyway, I ain't gonna take up y'all morning too much, man. But yeah, there's too many things, there's too many people in this world. Like friends, and I know you can't choose your family, but sometimes your fan your friends and friends' family can become your family. And sometimes your friends that you think are your best friends are your easiest enemy. Choose every step like you're playing chess, not checkers. Checkers, you're just moving to you know, try to eliminate as you go. Chess, you have to be a little bit more strategic. And with chess, you have to map out your moves. So I guess that's what I'm trying to say, right? Map out your moves as you go on through your day.